Being a teenager can be an emotional roller coaster but why?
You are often dealing with changes and new pressures such as:
- Changing school and not seeing good friends who now go to different schools
- Exams: Class tests/SATS/GCSEs/A’levels and wanting to get good marks.
- Sports: wanting to be better in sports or get onto a team
- It might feel as though there just isn’t enough time to do everything.
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When you are a teenager you may feel that you are struggling with identity and self-image both at home with your parents and siblings as well as at school. Also being accepted by friends feels extremely important. You may find that you want some independence to make your own decisions and this may make you feel distant from your parents and family and angry with them if they don’t seem to understand this.
At the same time your hormones kick in and cause both physical and emotional changes in both girls and boys.
All in all this can be a bit of an overwhelming time and even be a bit lonely. It can take time for you (and your family!) to adjust to you becoming an adult.
How to handle bad moods:
- Recognize you’re not alone. Every teenager will experience these moods to a greater or lesser degree.
- Catch your breath . Count to ten slowly or do something else while you try to look at the situation as though you were an outsider viewing the argument.
- Talk to people you trust . Friends can help each other by realising that they’re not alone in their feelings. Talking to parents is important, too and. they’ll appreciate it if you try to explain how you feel instead of just slamming a door. Teachers and the youth centre are often helpful, and a doctor can help with both worries about your mood and the physical changes in your body.
- Exercise. Regular exercise helps to control stress and improves your mood.
- King’s School has lots of sports clubs and teams to join - get out there and join one. Alternatively what is on at Colin Tooze or Honiton Leisure centres or in your village?
- Devon has beautiful countryside and relatively quiet roads - go out running or cycling with a friend.
- Get enough sleep Being tired can lead to more sadness and irritability.
- Create. Get involved in some sort of project, like starting a journal or diary, building something out of wood, or starting an art or music piece. Writing can help you organize and express your thoughts and feelings and will make things more manageable. Don’t worry about grammar, spelling, or punctuation; the important thing is just to get your thoughts on paper. Do the same thing with paint, sculpture, music, or other art forms. Put your feelings into your artwork.
- Cry. There’s nothing wrong with crying, in fact, it can be a huge relief and makes you feel heaps better.
- Time out. If you feel like the prince or princess of darkness just wait and let the mood pass and remove yourself from any situation that makes you feel worse. Don’t take it out on others have some time out.